Top 3 Dating Tips for Men

Back in August, I wrote a blog about The Lost Boys Report, which highlighted the realities of how many boys and men are struggling. As a therapist, one of the areas that we really see both men and women affected as a result of this reality, is in the dating world. Therefore where are my top three recommendations for how men can show up stronger, for both themselves, as well as in their intimate relationships.

1) Stop consuming what destroys your ability to connect. Cool it with the porn, excessive gaming and mindless scrolling. These habits can hijack your brain’s reward system, distort your view of intimacy and compromise your appreciation for reciprocal relationships.

2) Strive for self-respect, not just self-confidence. Build a life that you are proud of. Build a character that you are proud of. Start with the basics, such as tell the truth, keep your word, work hard. Because when you respect yourself, you raise your standards, for both how you treat women, as well as what you accept in return.

3) Get strong in your mind, body and character. Dating is hard, rejection is real, and that’s why you need your strength. Start small - whether it’s ten pushups a day, going for a light jog, laying off the weed. Read something timeless, help someone who can offer you nothing in return. Your strength and character will not build themselves - so the sooner you can start, the better.

Let me know your thoughts - I welcome feedback and pushback. And ladies, you’re up next :)